Ditch the DM, and Just Be Social

Trying to slide into the DM’s of that girl who posted a fire bikini pic? Here’s a thought: don’t.

Being a female and having mostly female friends, I know for a fact that most people are never pleased to see a creepy dude they don’t know direct messaging them to show romantic/sexual interest. Instead, they take your flirtation as a joke, screenshot it, and send it in about every group chat they have.

What I’m trying to say is, there is never a correct way to slide into a person’s DM’s. It will always be creepy. So, if you’re on the hunt for a summer fling, why not try and do things the old fashion way? Go out into the world and meet people first hand.

I know, it sounds like a crazy concept to go out and interact with other humans, but trust me this is how almost every girl envisions meeting that special someone. Name one rom-com that begins a love story with a slimy message on Instagram. You can’t.

Personally, when people who I don’t know direct message me on any social media platform I always assume the worst and think the person is either trying to lure me into a human trafficking ring, or they’re going to take me on a date to a nice, wide open field where no one will hear me scream.

Maybe that is a little dramatic, but we’re taught from a young age not to talk to strangers for a reason. There are crazy people everywhere, and in today’s world, you can never be too safe. Also, social media is seemingly becoming a scarier place every day, so can you blame me? From first-hand conversations, I know I am not the only one who feels this way.

So ditch the DM and go the bar, the bowling alley, the mall, or any social setting and kick it old school. People in this generation need to stop being so scared of physical, present, social interaction. We get way to caught up in social media across the board, it is only harming our growth as people and causing us to lose sight of the very basics of human interaction.

If you are really incapable of going out, being social, and meeting people that way, then download one of the variety of apps we have today that are strictly for dating/hooking up, where people would love to see a flirtatious message in their inbox.

There’s Tinder, OK Cupid, Grindr, and Bumble (where the girl actually has to message you!). There you’ll find a community of people who are on the hunt to meet someone on the Internet. So don’t antagonize people on social media with unsolicited pick up lines, because they’ll probably end up blocking you while laughing about it at brunch on Saturday.